Regulating the Game: Controlling YOUR dating world

Ever since we were little girls in the school yard, we always liked the bad boy. You know, the boy that pulled out hair and ran away. Since that day, we have gravitated to the bad boy. He is always hot looking, devilishly seductive, fun to look at, and super hot and irresistible. They always keep your blood pumping and the sexy is always good and interesting. But there is a bad side to all the fun. Bad boys are spreading the love to everybody! they make no apologies to their womanizing ways and they don't care who's hearts they stomp on in the end. So why are you STILL after them? what is it about a bad boy that makes you come back for more? and is this good or bad for you? Most women like the bad boy because subconsciously the bad boy represents what a masculine man should be. Long gone are the days of the type of man that is goes to hunt, fights for his family in sword fights and such, so our ideas have changed as to what a man really is and we have helplessly t...

Its been 5 years. You have the kids, the boyfriend and the home. Wait. YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND!?!?!??!?! something is wrong in this equation. You are probably wondering how did you get there? well,  you made life too comfortable for him. He cares about you, but honestly, he will not marry you because there is no need too. you live together and have kids and he will not marry you because? well, he is leaving the possibility of something better coming along. Sorry, but that is the truth. Men marry you because, either they are scared to lose you or they don't want to die alone. But in both instances, they do love you. Your baby daddy has some love for you, but his has conditions and that is a problem. So I know what you are saying "well what the hell am I supposed to do!!!" Well, its a hard road between getting out of being a baby momma to wife. You can at least try. You need to throw little hints around the house. wedding magazine should be on the coffee table lol. Ask ...

When you first date, everything is soooo sweet, he picks you up on time, he takes you where you want to go, but then after like 2 dates. This fool ends up at your house, eating up alllll your food and you are so desperate to go out you start paying for dates and it comes to the point you have to fight with him to get up off your couch and do anything period! How did it come to this? and why are you putting up with it???? well as soon as the relationship begins you need to set ground rules from the jump and if he is bails early, don't fret! at least you know now you were dealing with a man instead of a boy. I know the economy is super bad right now. but sorry. we live in a wonderful country called America and there is no excuse for a man to not find a creative way to have a nice evening. There are discount sights that you can have 2 for 1 date. so there is nooooo excuse period! but aside from than. how much do you allow when you first meet a guy? do you give it up too soon? are ...

It has all happened to us. The good old dry spell. No matter how much we put ourselves out there, we cannot find a date or even get a man to look in our direction. Why does this happen you ask? there are several factors that can attribute to you being all on your lonesome: 1. facial expressions:  how do you look when you are walking around? do you have and soft inviting face? or do you have a scowl? Take into consideration how hard it is for a man to approach a woman. Your face may give him reason to veer away. 2. picking the wrong places to meet a guy: sorry, the club will not be the ideal place to meet a fella really. You would have better time finding a guy in the dark! You need to reevaluate the places you are looking for a man 3. Man Energy equals man response: I know it sounds hella silly. But don't you notice that when you are dating a man, other men come out of the woodwork! why is that? who knows? but since you have no man to begin with you need to have some of t...

Sometimes we can stand in our own way when it comes to finding the right person to be in a relationship with. Some times we think in terms of "will he like me?" "am I good enough for him" when you should be saying, is he good enough for me!!there are so many deadly sins that women attempt and they have no idea that maybe they are the ones responsible for being alone. A lot of women say there are no good men, when in turn, there are good  men, But they keep looking for the BAD ones! accepting unacceptable behavior, doing things sexually that they feel uncomfortable with, Rewarding bad behavior and so on. Its not good to put yourself down (please look at my "why are you beating yourself up? post) go out of your way for a man that does not go out of his way for you and so on. Having a bad attitude and over bearing behavior, lack of femininity are many more bad qualities you may be harboring. You have to do some closet cleaning with your soul. How do you see you...

It is a bad habit that people, especially women always put themselves down. And its not healthy to ones self image and well being. Do you realize that if you say things like "I'm fat" "I'm ugly" "I'm not as smart, hot, pretty as her" you are basically hypnotizing yourself to affirm the very things you say? if you really took the time to listen to each thought you have. You would be surprised to see how many of them are negative. At this time in your life, you might not be in the most lucrative job, you might be overweight, and you might feel less than. But you telling yourself this day in and day out is not the way to go! what progress are you gaining for yourself if you continue to say you are not the greatest and the best you can be! You have to be proactive. Its not a task for the weak, and no one says its going to be easy, but whatever you say about yourself, do the opposite. You don't feel pretty? Get a makeover. You hate your job? ...

Friends With Benefits or FWB as its called. Boy oh boy did men invent the best way to control and manipulate a woman. FWB means you are friends, but you have sex once in a while. But honestly it means you are just around for sex. till they get tired of you and want to move on. The man does not have to take you out, he does not have to have you around his friends, and if he wants to date a girl or disappear, Its okay cause you are only friends. Meanwhile he gets to take the time to confuse your head by having you over and maybe you going out once in a while. Well this is all wrong, either you are friends (meaning platonically) or you are together. And if a man tells you he is not ready for a relationship, you need to ask yourself how you are good enough to be screwed, but not good enough to commit to. This FWB invention is the best setup for men, they can have their cake and eat it too. No commitment, but they can have the panties at their will. And if they decide to actually date a g...