Toxics friends. They may be the reason you are single..........

Nothing is more fun than talking, spending time with girlfriends. Your girls are the ones that have your back, help you pick the best dress for the date, and more. But look at the whole picture, are they really your friends? I'm sure there are many of you that have friends that have been there since the beginning of time. But for most, There have been friends that have been slowly draining the very life force out of you. Keeping you stagnated from growing and perhaps meeting that Mr. right. There are types and I will break them down for you:

The moocher:

This friend never has enough money for the lounge. Is always late on a bill and is of need of your financial assistance, They want to borrow your clothes, jewelry, and whatever else you have. And when you do give them something, its like pulling teeth, they don't have the money they owe you, or the dress you lent to them suddenly disappeared. Moochers are always there to get something of  yours, but where are they when you need them????

Solution:

This one is too toxic to deal with. They are not capable of making a 360. The thing is is that they are usually jealous of you for what you have and what you can give. You have to cease giving them ANYTHING! they have become dependant on you to dot their i's and cross their t's. Their mother should have done that years ago and its not your problem. If they complain that you have changed or that they think you are not a true friend anymore, that is more of a sign for you to turn your back and walk in the other direction.

The Debby Downer:

This is the narcissistic chick where it is ALL about her. Hell, she doesn't even say hi. She just gets on the phone and says: "omg, you would not believe what happened to me today" she never calls to tell you anything good, all she calls about is her troubles. Not even caring if you have problems. You have been anointed her own personal. Dr Phil!

Solution:

Test how much of a real friend she is, a friend can lean on your shoulder to vent sometimes, but can she be that shoulder when you need it? if you mention that you have a problem, does she quickly change the subject and go right back to her problem?? Does she ever ask you how are you doing? she is what I call a parasite. This is the type of person that drains you of positive energy (I will write a post on this in the future)

Mention to her that maybe she needs to talk to a therapist, tell her that maybe she needs to invest in a good self-help book (tell her to read mine!) make it clear to her that everyone has problems and that she can better manage her problems with help. If she doesn't get the message, dump her. You don't need dead weight dragging you down.

The cock blocker



This is the girl that is loves to go out with you. But as soon as too many guys are hitting on you, she wants to leave. If you meet a guy and you are just dating him, she complains that you don't spend time with her or says jokingly that she is jealous of you (but she really means it) She might even go as far as to criticize the men you date or the man you with. When in the end, she is not really a friend, she is envious and that an energy stealer

Solution:

Tell her that her day will come to find someone. and not to rate her self worth or attractiveness on how many men hit on her. If she keeps it up. Cut her off at all costs. You need friends that root for you, not block you from happiness

The habit spreaders:

These are the most plentiful and toxic of all friends. When they want to go on eating, drinking and hoeing binges, they need some company. You seek them when you are sad and you think that their are your support. However, misery loves company. And this is the person that keeps you fat, depressed and drunk and misguided most of the time. With this person,  you don't progress. And that is not a part of the plan!

Solution:

There is no trying to help this person out. Cut them at ALL COSTS!!!!  usually a person like this who engages in such devaluing behavior are beyond your help. Yes, its about you, and if this person is in your way, you need to drop them like a bad habit.

In order to lead a positive, productive life, One must be around positive, productive people. It is just the law of attraction, plain and simple. You need positive people to support you and motivate you. Except nothing less than that! to meet them, go on meetup.com there are plenty of groups that have interests that may suit you. Find people that workout, and have a positive outlook on life. Doing this will set you on a path of being a healthy person both mentally and physically, and in turn giving you a clearer perspective on dating  and finding  your mate.