Regulating the Game: Controlling YOUR dating world

They cheat, leave us and the kids, lie to get in our pants, hell, they lie about almost everything under the sun. And when the bomb drops on us we are left wondering why? what did we do to deserve such deceit, disrespect and hurt? First of all. It was never you, please know that these men are not men to begin with. But in order to avoid, spot out, or manipulate one of these creatures you must learn how they came to be, who they are and why they are this way. See how their relationship is with their mother let me tell you that men's relationship with with women are based  60%  on how their relationship was with their mother. Males first interaction with females is through their mother, so if she was a whore, he will think all women are whores. If she abandoned him, treated him like shit, he will never trust woman and think all women are evil. I have always asked men I have dated how was their relationship was with their mother. The one that had the w...

One of the core techniques in regulating the game is the "Pair and a Spare" technique. It will be illustrated in detail in my book. But basically its a technique that has been used for ages by men themselves. In order for this to work, one needs to have a thick skin and a strong personality. And if you don't then dammit get one because this will be your sure way of getting the man you desire. We as women have been conditioned to be in a box, we need to be super loyal and super faithful at all times, but do we really win in the end ladies? men have nooo problem leaving you and the kids and totally  having a new life making a new family from scratch. Not saying that you should drop your kids and go with some hottie you met somewhere but no man these days deserves the loyalty that women give. No loyalty till the ring ladies! So back to the numbers game, you need a lot of men in your stable to better narrow down what you want. Yes, this will take some time and effort to acc...

Nothing is more fun than talking, spending time with girlfriends. Your girls are the ones that have your back, help you pick the best dress for the date, and more. But look at the whole picture, are they really your friends? I'm sure there are many of you that have friends that have been there since the beginning of time. But for most, There have been friends that have been slowly draining the very life force out of you. Keeping you stagnated from growing and perhaps meeting that Mr. right. There are types and I will break them down for you: The moocher: This friend never has enough money for the lounge. Is always late on a bill and is of need of your financial assistance, They want to borrow your clothes, jewelry, and whatever else you have. And when you do give them something, its like pulling teeth, they don't have the money they owe you, or the dress you lent to them suddenly disappeared. Moochers are always there to get something of  yours, but where are the...

I have noticed a disturbing trend that has been going on for some years now. Jealousy. Countless times I have seen a beautiful girl somewhere and then after she leaves someone would roll their eyes or say. "she isn't all that" what really gets my gourd is when someone says someone like Beyonce is not talented or not pretty, when we all know that anyone within a million mile radius would give their left arm to date her. And trust me, even if they say they wouldn't, they are lying lol. One of the reasons women are not doing well in the dating world is because we do not have a sense of comrodery among women. We will make sure we have friends that are  less attractive than us so when we go out so we shine more, we get pissed if guys are hitting on our friend more than us. In some instances, we may even go out with our friends man just to see if we can get him away from her. I remember a guy once told me " women don't dress for themselves, they dress ...

 Valentines day is the day for love and romance, as the holiday dictates, but to me Valentines day should not be all about sharing with your spouse or boyfriend. It should be about celebrating love period! the purest form of love is unconditional love.  We are so conditioned to believe that the most important love is when its romantic, if you don't have a man that loves you, then you are a loser. When Valentines day comes may people who do not have the so called love of their lives will feel like they are less than. Or feel that they are not worthy of celebrating the day of love. I say to you that YOU are worthy! for those who have children. If you are a good mother, even some times when you are not, children love you. If you were to lose your looks or your job, your children would still love you. They would be there to cheer you up. Your pets love you when you are in rollers, when you ate one bon bon too many, as long as you give them the love they need, they  love...

In order to be in a happy relationship, you need to know when to leave. WTF!?!!?!? I know what you are thinking, but if you are in a happy relationship, you are in one because you know what a bad relationship is, therefore you can contrast good and bad. So whether you are in a relationship now, or looking to be in a relationship. There are signs to look out for so that you know when to go: 1. His time is unaccounted for and you cannot locate where he is 2. Constant arguing 3.you seem to go out of your way to please him 4. what you say or do is never right 5.He doesn't try to be understanding when you tell him your feelings 6.more interested in sex than romance and affection. There are more that I will reveal in my upcoming book........ The thing is that leaving is scary. But the longer you stay in, the harder it will be to go. You have to realize that having peace always is better than you being miserable, take it from me. I was in a bad relationship for years, I ba...