Regulating the Game: Controlling YOUR dating world

As Valentines day nears. There are many single women who have more stress nearing February 14th.  This is because we are conditioned, especially as women to feel less than a woman if we are not in a romantic relationship. We are somehow not special if we are not walking around with flowers in hand with a place to go. We must really look at the big picture when it comes to Valentines Day, it's a well devised marketing tactic and its just another way to generate revenue for the masses.  So we scramble, we date our little  hearts out  hoping that when that day comes we can tell our co-workers, friends and possible frienemies that we are anticipating a night of romance from a man who will validated us. Valentines Day is a statement to others that "I'm wanted!' "I'm attractive!" I'm special see the flowers!!!  what you must know is that you are more than flowers and candy and you are more than one day. Romantic love is great isnt it?  you feel so w...

  January 1st came and went and so the resolutions have come. No time like the present to get you together! but to avoid you from procrastination monster (please see my post on procrastination) y You need to get motivated, and I mean like YESTERDAY!!!!! when  next year comes around  you can say I evolved! I accomplished! I succeeded! So what is your passion? what are you dreams? what is keeping you from them. ABSOLUTELY  NOTHING!!!! if its money, you can save some to pay for what you want, you need to find love? you will find it withing yourself. You want to lose weight? its time to get to that gym and make a plan to go several times a week! DO IT!!!!! You have to know with any goal in life that you need 3  things to succeed, CONSISTENCY AND DETERMINATION AND FOCUS!!!! you will not accomplish anything if you do not live these principles. put them on your wall, say them before you leave the house. Tell yourself you can do it!! and do it! I'm ...

We have all been insulted, put down at one point of our lives. But what is the effect when its someone very close to you? a partner is supposed to be a person that supports your dreams and eases your fears, bring you up when you feel down and such.  With physical abuse, you can see the pain. The deeper the bruises, the harder the pain that was inflicted, but verbal abuse is much more violent and hurtful. How is that you ask? because the mentally pain last much longer, from months to years and it can slowly tear apart at your psyche. Is more hurtful because it cannot be seen by the naked eye, therefore its less likely to be remedied. And once the soul is hurt, everything crumbles. How do you know verbal abuse from criticism? because after someone give you a critique you should not feel worse than you started. Verbal abuse makes you feel low, useless, ugly, dumb and all the negative things one can imagine. the verbal abuser makes you feel like a child and they act as if ...