Regulating the Game: Controlling YOUR dating world

In this crazy society, women are conditioned to stay in line. We get slut shamed if we date more than one man. Even though it’s okay for men to date, sleep with how many women they want. They get all the advantages and power. They can have as many women as they want. They can keep them up in the air with their “friends with benefits” mind games and not have to feel sorry when they toss women aside for the upgrade. Women do not recognize that they have power. We have been too submissive for too long. It’s not all our fault. We are hardwired to care for others, to nurture, to love more. We have to be this way because we are the ones that create children and have to rear them. But these instincts fail us in the rules of dating. We have the need to please and nurture even when we are not getting what we want. We have the need to compromise just so our mate will be happy. This fails us and we have to learn to start being more selfish. If you want a better life, and a better chance at...

AHHHHH! It’s finally done! I’m so happy to be releasing my first book! It took me five years to write only because I was so busy with other things. However the next set of books will come out faster and better. I learned a lot on this journey of self publishing. I learned that formatting is a biotch! Lol. Already got a review! The formatting is not great and for that I apologize. It was hard to transfer it to kindle. Next time around it will be much better. I know to be meticulous this time around. Anyways, you can preview the book. it’s at a reasonable price and I I’m currently creating 3 parent books to this one simultaneously that will help you once you get the relationship, marriage and possibly divorce (lets hope it does not get to that point, but if so, you will be prepared!!!!) I have a lot of projects in line and it only gets better   from here and I hope you like the upcoming work. I would like to thank all of you    for your comments both good and b...

We are well on our way into the new year. And while most of us are hitting a gym or trying something new, there is yet another great way to get your priorities in check. Money. We all need it. We all want more of it. The more financially secure you are, the less stress you have. Here are a few tips that may help you to get your money game in order: Skimp on the take out lunches: $7 to $10 dollars a day can add up. on average of $225 a month! that is a car or student loan payment. you can make a homemade lunch and cut your expenses up to 50% also, if you pick more healthier food unlike the process food that is usually made with takeout, you will be eating wiser! Cut down the shopping I know, I know. it sounds insane. We love to shop!! what to do now! but you do not have to buy the store every time you get paid. if you like to shop. limit it to once a month and back off the name brands if possible. there are great knock offs ma...

As Valentines day nears. There are many single women who have more stress nearing February 14th.  This is because we are conditioned, especially as women to feel less than a woman if we are not in a romantic relationship. We are somehow not special if we are not walking around with flowers in hand with a place to go. We must really look at the big picture when it comes to Valentines Day, it's a well devised marketing tactic and its just another way to generate revenue for the masses.  So we scramble, we date our little  hearts out  hoping that when that day comes we can tell our co-workers, friends and possible frienemies that we are anticipating a night of romance from a man who will validated us. Valentines Day is a statement to others that "I'm wanted!' "I'm attractive!" I'm special see the flowers!!!  what you must know is that you are more than flowers and candy and you are more than one day. Romantic love is great isnt it?  you feel so w...

  January 1st came and went and so the resolutions have come. No time like the present to get you together! but to avoid you from procrastination monster (please see my post on procrastination) y You need to get motivated, and I mean like YESTERDAY!!!!! when  next year comes around  you can say I evolved! I accomplished! I succeeded! So what is your passion? what are you dreams? what is keeping you from them. ABSOLUTELY  NOTHING!!!! if its money, you can save some to pay for what you want, you need to find love? you will find it withing yourself. You want to lose weight? its time to get to that gym and make a plan to go several times a week! DO IT!!!!! You have to know with any goal in life that you need 3  things to succeed, CONSISTENCY AND DETERMINATION AND FOCUS!!!! you will not accomplish anything if you do not live these principles. put them on your wall, say them before you leave the house. Tell yourself you can do it!! and do it! I'm ...

We have all been insulted, put down at one point of our lives. But what is the effect when its someone very close to you? a partner is supposed to be a person that supports your dreams and eases your fears, bring you up when you feel down and such.  With physical abuse, you can see the pain. The deeper the bruises, the harder the pain that was inflicted, but verbal abuse is much more violent and hurtful. How is that you ask? because the mentally pain last much longer, from months to years and it can slowly tear apart at your psyche. Is more hurtful because it cannot be seen by the naked eye, therefore its less likely to be remedied. And once the soul is hurt, everything crumbles. How do you know verbal abuse from criticism? because after someone give you a critique you should not feel worse than you started. Verbal abuse makes you feel low, useless, ugly, dumb and all the negative things one can imagine. the verbal abuser makes you feel like a child and they act as if ...

As the saying goes, knowledge is power and as the growing sisterhood we are becoming, I would like to share with you things that has helped me along my journey to greatness. We all need tools and encouragement so feel free to take a look, some may not be for you, but I'm sure you will find something to your liking.   Books: Fat, broke and lonely no more by Victoria Moran Really loved this book it was really a good read and one of the best self help books I have ever read. The Rules, By Ellen Fein ans Sherrie Scheider This is the "what mamma used to tell you" type of advice, its ages old and it still works! very great tool for dating The Secret by Rhonda Burne  It is very popular and encouraging to really affirm your dreams   Websites:   http://www.wikihow.com/Start-a-Conversation-When-You-Have-Nothing-to-Talk-About   really gives tips on how to start conversation. expanding your circle is great. it not only gives you op...