Regulating the Game: Controlling YOUR dating world

As Valentines day nears. There are many single women who have more stress nearing February 14th.  This is because we are conditioned, especially as women to feel less than a woman if we are not in a romantic relationship. We are somehow not special if we are not walking around with flowers in hand with a place to go. We must really look at the big picture when it comes to Valentines Day, it's a well devised marketing tactic and its just another way to generate revenue for the masses.  So we scramble, we date our little  hearts out  hoping that when that day comes we can tell our co-workers, friends and possible frienemies that we are anticipating a night of romance from a man who will validated us. Valentines Day is a statement to others that "I'm wanted!' "I'm attractive!" I'm special see the flowers!!!  what you must know is that you are more than flowers and candy and you are more than one day. Romantic love is great isnt it?  you feel so w...

Conceit, is a dirty word in our society, it means to think that you are more than you are, but who is to say how  much you are? there is nothing wrong with loving yourself. Its only  a problem when you think you are the only great one in the world but to have a very high confidence is a wonderful thing. It makes you think about how crazy society is that, when a person boasts "I'm wonderful!' people turn their nose at them. But as soon as they say "I hate myself" everyone is ready to call Oprah and get the hankies out to console them. Now, if everyone had self esteem. the diet market would be out of business. makeup companies would go bankrupt. And movie and music stars would be at home dreaming to be something else. All of these business latch on to ones esteem in one way or another. What I'm saying to you is. NEVER feel bad to love something about yourself. if you have beautiful eyes. ,then dammit state so! if you have flawless skin, then say ...

Sometimes we can stand in our own way when it comes to finding the right person to be in a relationship with. Some times we think in terms of "will he like me?" "am I good enough for him" when you should be saying, is he good enough for me!!there are so many deadly sins that women attempt and they have no idea that maybe they are the ones responsible for being alone. A lot of women say there are no good men, when in turn, there are good  men, But they keep looking for the BAD ones! accepting unacceptable behavior, doing things sexually that they feel uncomfortable with, Rewarding bad behavior and so on. Its not good to put yourself down (please look at my "why are you beating yourself up? post) go out of your way for a man that does not go out of his way for you and so on. Having a bad attitude and over bearing behavior, lack of femininity are many more bad qualities you may be harboring. You have to do some closet cleaning with your soul. How do you see you...

It is a bad habit that people, especially women always put themselves down. And its not healthy to ones self image and well being. Do you realize that if you say things like "I'm fat" "I'm ugly" "I'm not as smart, hot, pretty as her" you are basically hypnotizing yourself to affirm the very things you say? if you really took the time to listen to each thought you have. You would be surprised to see how many of them are negative. At this time in your life, you might not be in the most lucrative job, you might be overweight, and you might feel less than. But you telling yourself this day in and day out is not the way to go! what progress are you gaining for yourself if you continue to say you are not the greatest and the best you can be! You have to be proactive. Its not a task for the weak, and no one says its going to be easy, but whatever you say about yourself, do the opposite. You don't feel pretty? Get a makeover. You hate your job? ...